Sounds like I need a vacation, doesn't it?
To me, it is my mini-vacation, every weekend. I live for it. This is the time I get to be my true self, mother and wife.
I know there was a time, not too long ago, that most women had no other choice than to stay home and take care of the house and family. I am grateful to the strong women before me that paved the way toward equality. And while true equality may not be a reality yet, in some ways, I think we may have gone too far.
I have a great job. In one day, I might send an email newsletter to 60,000 people, create animated online ads, train higher-ups in different systems, interact with customers, and put out many, many fires. It is often creative, exciting and all-consuming. Every day is different, just the way I like it.
So, what do I have to complain about? I am well-educated, I have an amazing husband, a lovable, clever, well-adjusted son, a supportive extended family AND a great job. Ok, I admit it, life is pretty good.
Except that we live in my mother's house, because even with two good salaries, we can't afford to buy our own home. I am not home enough, so our house is always a mess. I spend less than two hours a day with my son and he is often in bed before I get home from work. He loves his daycare, but every morning be begs to stay home with me.
I live for the weekends. It is now 2:30 PM and I just put in a movie for my son so I can do some much needed cleaning. So far today we have talked, snuggled and baked pizza together from scratch. My husband, a black belt in karate, gave us a karate lesson. My son and I looked at art photography together online.
It is snowing out, but there is not enough on the ground to play outside, so we will probably have a "dance party" to get some exercise. Later, we will make dinner together and maybe bake cookies for dessert. A perfect day.
I am sure that if I could be a stay-at-home mom or a work-at-home mom, there would still be things to complain about. After all, the grass is always greener, and all that. It sure would be nice to find out.
That is where I think we have gone too far. I am grateful that I and can and do have a career. But if I had the choice, I would spend much more time being a wife and mother.
To me, it is my mini-vacation, every weekend. I live for it. This is the time I get to be my true self, mother and wife.
I know there was a time, not too long ago, that most women had no other choice than to stay home and take care of the house and family. I am grateful to the strong women before me that paved the way toward equality. And while true equality may not be a reality yet, in some ways, I think we may have gone too far.
I have a great job. In one day, I might send an email newsletter to 60,000 people, create animated online ads, train higher-ups in different systems, interact with customers, and put out many, many fires. It is often creative, exciting and all-consuming. Every day is different, just the way I like it.
So, what do I have to complain about? I am well-educated, I have an amazing husband, a lovable, clever, well-adjusted son, a supportive extended family AND a great job. Ok, I admit it, life is pretty good.
Except that we live in my mother's house, because even with two good salaries, we can't afford to buy our own home. I am not home enough, so our house is always a mess. I spend less than two hours a day with my son and he is often in bed before I get home from work. He loves his daycare, but every morning be begs to stay home with me.
I live for the weekends. It is now 2:30 PM and I just put in a movie for my son so I can do some much needed cleaning. So far today we have talked, snuggled and baked pizza together from scratch. My husband, a black belt in karate, gave us a karate lesson. My son and I looked at art photography together online.
It is snowing out, but there is not enough on the ground to play outside, so we will probably have a "dance party" to get some exercise. Later, we will make dinner together and maybe bake cookies for dessert. A perfect day.
I am sure that if I could be a stay-at-home mom or a work-at-home mom, there would still be things to complain about. After all, the grass is always greener, and all that. It sure would be nice to find out.
That is where I think we have gone too far. I am grateful that I and can and do have a career. But if I had the choice, I would spend much more time being a wife and mother.
Unfortunatly we'd all like to be doing something else, be it stay at home or have a different career. It's next to impossible as you get older, I think. :/